Again, at CeI we have determined, through research, that everyone should have a “Bitch Budget” and a “Ballistic Episode” budget. That is, you should not express more than 3 “bitches” a month. With every bitch, you must find and express 3 accolades (recognition of an attribute your significant other brings to the relationship that makes the relationship better, more beautiful, more comfortable and/or more mutually beneficial). That, by the way, will slow down the bitches which, over time, will damage the relationship irreparably.
You “Ballistics Budget” is twice per year only. Ballistic Episodes mean you have passion in tour relationship. You want passion, passion properly pointed.