Disengagement Preparation Form Disengagement Preparation Form Enter Your Issue Here Disengagement is necessary in situations where circumstances and emotions are heading toward a "ballistic situation". A ballistic episode is where emotions/tempers are out of control and where irreparable damage can occur to the relationship. It is important that you know and recognize defensive behavior, in yourself and from your significant other. It is important that you avoid being defensive and that you engineer the conversation so that your significant other has no reason to be defensive. REMEMBER, Powerful people set the mood, weak people reflect the mood. The best, and usually only, means to effectively resolve an issue, is to maintain cool and calm control. Sometimes you will need a "time out" to regain control of your emotions and prepare your diplomatic and eloquent questions to bring your significant other to a mutually agreeable conclusion of the issue under discussion. This form is used to proactively prepare for just a situation; where a strategic, diplomatic and eloquent retreat is necessary.Discussion - Party One Mr.Mrs.MissMs.Dr.Prof.Rev. Prefix First Middle Last Suffix Discussion - Party Two Mr.Mrs.MissMs.Dr.Prof.Rev. Prefix First Middle Last Suffix Issue Title* Issue Description*Party One's Position on the IssueEnter here what you believe the issue is and how you feel about it.Party Two's Position on the Issue*Enter here how you believe your Significant Other feels about this issue.Indications The Conversation is Heading For a Ballistic EpisodeEnter here the signs that this conversation may be heading for a ballistic episode and we need to "give it a rest", take a "time out" until we can both be better balanced, calm and understanding. Relationship Goal Title* Relationship Goal - Emotional*What do you want your significant other to feel as a result of this conversation and your desire to disengage until you or he/she can regain balance and calm control.Relationship Goal - FunctionalWhat do you want your significant other to do as a result of this conversation and your desire to have a "time out" until you both can regain balance and calm control.Relationship Goal - Positional How do you want your significant other to prioritize this "time out" and rescheduling of the conversation.Relationship Goal - AcademicWhat do you want your significant other to learn from this conversation and your "time out" request.Disarming Compelling StoryThere are four power tools for establishing and maintaining rapport; humor, the compelling story, sharing a secret and sharing a common experience. Research a compelling story about how allowing a ballistic episode to occur can permanently damage a relationship and how taking a strategic "time out" can save and even enhance the relationship. In this dialogue box, key in your compelling story.Disarming HumorResearch funny stories and find a story that is appropriate for your discussion and taking a time out. Enter your story into this dialogue box for reference during your discussion should you need to take a "time out".Disarming SecretSharing a secret with your significant other should bring you closer together. Sharing a secret about taking a "time out" will be even more powerful. If you can think of a secret you can share with him/her, record it here for reference during your discussion.Disarming Common ExperienceThe common experience is also a powerful rapport building and maintaince tool. If you can think of an experience you and your significant other have shared, key it in here and use it, if necessary, to bring your significant other to the conclusion that a "time out" would be mutually beneficial.Reassurance Statement*Never suspend a conversation about any issue with your significant other until after you have reassured him/her that the conversation will be continued within a reasonable time. Enter your reassurance statement here. If you should need help with this field, please schedule a call with your CeI coach.Rescheduling Statement*Below you will enter, before the discussion, when you can resume the conversation. Prepare a diplomatic, eloquent, warm and soft statement to be used when you "suggest" a date and time to resume the conversation.Suggest Resume Date MM slash DD slash YYYY Resume Time : Hours Minutes AM PM Time Out With Love Statement*Always END WITH A FRIEND. Enter a statement here where, again, you reassure and demonstrate that your relationship is very important and that his or her feelings are important and that the issue will be resolved. Δ